It rolled in this afternoon about 4:00 like a thunderstorm. I could feel my funk, my August funk, start to settle over me. The calendar may claim we have 40 more days of summer, but anyone with school-age kids knows that summer ends when school starts. For us, that happens tomorrow.
I call it my transition funk. It's not an eloquent name, but I don't know how else to describe it. It's not sadness or anxiety. It's not regret. It's more just an unsettled feeling that things are changing, a feeling that leaves me a little fragile. The tears are just under the surface today as I anticipate our day tomorrow: my youngest entering a new school and starting her first day of junior high; my oldest making the 24-hour drive back to college. On Thursday, I send two more daughters into their sophomore and senior years, a reminder of just how soon each of them will be moving out of our house.
I couldn't be more excited for them all. But I also recognize that my stage of life is shifting quickly. I love what my friend Margo has to say about shifting seasons:
"I
have lived long enough to experience that each life stage is full of both
blessing and challenge, privilege and cost.
Flourishing in whatever season I’m in has always required that I receive
its gifts as well as grieve its losses. I don’t always do this well. Comparison
can rob me of living the season I’m in. I can look back at seasons that felt
more (or less) full. At times when friendships seemed more life-giving than
life-draining, or opportunities and capacity to use my gifts seemed to be balanced
just right. I can look around at others whose life stage seems to be giving
them freedom for more (or less) of whatever I currently want. Or I can look
ahead in anticipatory dread to seasons that I fear will hold more challenges
than blessings.
An inner response of consent, of
granting permission, for life to be what it is at this stage, with all its
costs and privileges, is not a passive “whatever.” It’s the courage to name
whatever realities I can about my current season and invite God to live in the
ebb and flow of it with me. He wants to give me discernment not only in
stewarding the pace of my life, but in stewarding the stages of it as well."
Margo's a wise woman. She helps me understand my funk. Each August, I go through the process of consenting to a new season. Some of those seasons are bigger than others. At this stage of kid-launching, they all feel big. I'm not just accepting what comes; I'm consenting. I'm saying, "OK, God, I know you've prepared me for this moment, and I want to live it well. I accept what you give, and I accept what you take, knowing it's all doing your good work in me. And thank you that I no longer have babies. Amen."
It may feel a little funky and I may find myself a bit soggy-eyed over the next week, but I'll take it. I'll consent, and I'll invite Him into the ebb and flow of my new realities.
Tuesday, August 13, 2019
Saturday, August 3, 2019
Seven Hundred Days
Seven hundred days.* I have spent the past seven hundred days asking God for something, the same something. "Asking" isn't really the right word. "Pleading" is more like it. With the persistent widow in Luke 18 as my example, I banged on God's door every day with the same request: "It's me again, Lord. Still asking. Still desperate for you to act." For seven hundred days, that door didn't budge.
The judge in the Luke 18 story finally says, "This woman is driving me crazy. I'm going to see that she gets justice, because she is wearing me out with her constant requests!" I don't know if that's what God thought about me, but this week, He answered. Loudly. Enormously. Where I had been begging at His door for even just a morsel, He produced a buffet.
The problem isn't solved; it's just that now there's an answer in sight. Like most of life, the solution will come only at the end of a long, difficult journey. It will require tremendous faith. It actually feels like it will require more faith now than ever--faith to hope that this is really the answer, and that it will really work. Faith not to despair if it doesn't turn out like I want it to. But my faith got a promotion and a raise this week, and right now I can believe God for anything.
If you've been pounding on God's door for seven days, seven hundred days, or seven years, don't grow weary. Don't give up. That's the message we learn from the persistent widow. There is value in caring about something, or someone, so much that we bring it up every day before the Lord. There is beautiful growth to be found--earned, really--in trusting that any day could be the day that He answers. And there is a celebration for the ages on the day when that answer comes.
*A rough approximation of two years' worth of prayer, accounting for the occasional sick day, "I'm-on-vacation-and-totally-forgot" day, "I'm-so-tired-of-asking-for-this-that-I-need-a-break" day, taking-my-firstborn-to-college day, or a handful of days when it was too cold/snowy/icy to go out to my prayer track.
The judge in the Luke 18 story finally says, "This woman is driving me crazy. I'm going to see that she gets justice, because she is wearing me out with her constant requests!" I don't know if that's what God thought about me, but this week, He answered. Loudly. Enormously. Where I had been begging at His door for even just a morsel, He produced a buffet.
The problem isn't solved; it's just that now there's an answer in sight. Like most of life, the solution will come only at the end of a long, difficult journey. It will require tremendous faith. It actually feels like it will require more faith now than ever--faith to hope that this is really the answer, and that it will really work. Faith not to despair if it doesn't turn out like I want it to. But my faith got a promotion and a raise this week, and right now I can believe God for anything.
If you've been pounding on God's door for seven days, seven hundred days, or seven years, don't grow weary. Don't give up. That's the message we learn from the persistent widow. There is value in caring about something, or someone, so much that we bring it up every day before the Lord. There is beautiful growth to be found--earned, really--in trusting that any day could be the day that He answers. And there is a celebration for the ages on the day when that answer comes.
*A rough approximation of two years' worth of prayer, accounting for the occasional sick day, "I'm-on-vacation-and-totally-forgot" day, "I'm-so-tired-of-asking-for-this-that-I-need-a-break" day, taking-my-firstborn-to-college day, or a handful of days when it was too cold/snowy/icy to go out to my prayer track.
Sunday, July 14, 2019
A "Precious" Week in Fiji
Precious is not really a word I use. It's a little too cutesy, too flowery, for me. That's a shame, because despite the fact that it became associated with cherub-faced figurines in the '80s, it's a powerful word. It means "of great value, not to be wasted or treated carelessly." By that standard, my trip to Fiji with my daughter was precious.
It was of great value. It opened our eyes to a new culture, new ways of thinking, and a much bigger picture of what the kingdom of God looks like on earth. There was great value for Brooka, for both her future and her present. There was value in me seeing her all in, making tricky relationships look easy. There was value in comparing and contrasting.
What does my 15-year-old daughter have in common with the teenage girls she spent the week with in Fiji? She's grown up in church, as many of the Homes of Hope girls have. She loves to sing songs to God. She loves to play games and sports, and she really loves to laugh. She sometimes feels like a kid and sometimes feels like an adult in that in-between adolescent space. More than anything else, she likes being around people. All of these things she shares in common with the girls we met in Fiji.
But from there, the differences are striking. My girl has never been pregnant and has no children. None of her teenage friends have children. She has 15 or 20 other kids in her classes, not 60. She's surrounded by people who are filled with vision. She's encouraged to think about the future and make decisions that will positively affect that future. She's grown up in a culture that values initiative, motivation, hard work, and responsibility. As long as she's been able to think, she's known that she has rights, that she can say "no," and that she has control over her own body. In her little world, incest and abuse are things she only hears about on the news. They're unacceptable, forbidden, things people go to jail for. In her world, parents work and children play and go to school. And finally, Brooka lives in a community where dads stick around and take care of their families.
My role on our trip to Fiji was to interview Homes of Hope's social workers so that I could write reports and stories. Every story they told me started the same way, with a little girl who had no dad. Either her parents never married, they got divorced, or her dad died. A mother's boyfriend or stepfather often moved in, leaving the girl vulnerable to abuse. Over and over again I heard about girls rejected by mothers, kicked out of the house (or forced by violence to flee the house) by a man who wasn't their dad. Without the protection of a father, they ended up on the streets, an easy target for sexual traffickers. I heard about 15-year-old girls living under a tin roof in a squatter settlement with 25 other girls and a 60-year-old pimp, who sold them out every day.
The "luckiest" ones got pregnant and found their way to Homes of Hope. These were our new friends--sweet, loving, cheerful girls who we sang, prayed, played, laughed, cried, and shared our lives with. Girls just like Brooka, but with very different stories. Girls who have never known what it's like to be loved by a good father.
Homes of Hope becomes their family. They learn, slowly, who to trust and how to trust. They learn about identity and confidence and who God made them to be. They learn how to become financially independent and how to take care of themselves and their children. They learn to stop hitting their children. They learn that the God they've been singing about is real and is crazy about them and wants a personal relationship with them. They learn that they have value beyond what they ever could have dreamed, and they learn to teach that to their children.
Brooka and I learned the value of growing up with a good dad. I didn't always think my dad was good. I don't have many positive memories of my 17 years with him. But my dad came home every night to be with his family. He worked hard for us. He took care of us, and he never left us. If anyone ever would have laid a hand on me, I think it's possible he would have killed him. I know that all the big pieces in my life--my education, my emotional and financial stability, my sense of responsibility, and especially my faith--came as a result of my dad sticking around. I'm sure he didn't always want to, but I am so grateful he did.
And I'm so, so grateful for my kids' father. It was simply the grace of God that led me to such a good man. A man who would not just stick around, but would love my three daughters and one son every minute of every day, completely and unconditionally. And who would have a whole lot of fun with them in the process. Brooka and I talked about this on the plane trip home, about how her life is different from her new Fijian friends not only because of the place she was born and the community she grew up in, but most importantly because of the good man who is her father.
That realization is precious: worthy of value, not to be wasted or treated carelessly.
It was of great value. It opened our eyes to a new culture, new ways of thinking, and a much bigger picture of what the kingdom of God looks like on earth. There was great value for Brooka, for both her future and her present. There was value in me seeing her all in, making tricky relationships look easy. There was value in comparing and contrasting.
What does my 15-year-old daughter have in common with the teenage girls she spent the week with in Fiji? She's grown up in church, as many of the Homes of Hope girls have. She loves to sing songs to God. She loves to play games and sports, and she really loves to laugh. She sometimes feels like a kid and sometimes feels like an adult in that in-between adolescent space. More than anything else, she likes being around people. All of these things she shares in common with the girls we met in Fiji.
But from there, the differences are striking. My girl has never been pregnant and has no children. None of her teenage friends have children. She has 15 or 20 other kids in her classes, not 60. She's surrounded by people who are filled with vision. She's encouraged to think about the future and make decisions that will positively affect that future. She's grown up in a culture that values initiative, motivation, hard work, and responsibility. As long as she's been able to think, she's known that she has rights, that she can say "no," and that she has control over her own body. In her little world, incest and abuse are things she only hears about on the news. They're unacceptable, forbidden, things people go to jail for. In her world, parents work and children play and go to school. And finally, Brooka lives in a community where dads stick around and take care of their families.
My role on our trip to Fiji was to interview Homes of Hope's social workers so that I could write reports and stories. Every story they told me started the same way, with a little girl who had no dad. Either her parents never married, they got divorced, or her dad died. A mother's boyfriend or stepfather often moved in, leaving the girl vulnerable to abuse. Over and over again I heard about girls rejected by mothers, kicked out of the house (or forced by violence to flee the house) by a man who wasn't their dad. Without the protection of a father, they ended up on the streets, an easy target for sexual traffickers. I heard about 15-year-old girls living under a tin roof in a squatter settlement with 25 other girls and a 60-year-old pimp, who sold them out every day.
The "luckiest" ones got pregnant and found their way to Homes of Hope. These were our new friends--sweet, loving, cheerful girls who we sang, prayed, played, laughed, cried, and shared our lives with. Girls just like Brooka, but with very different stories. Girls who have never known what it's like to be loved by a good father.
Homes of Hope becomes their family. They learn, slowly, who to trust and how to trust. They learn about identity and confidence and who God made them to be. They learn how to become financially independent and how to take care of themselves and their children. They learn to stop hitting their children. They learn that the God they've been singing about is real and is crazy about them and wants a personal relationship with them. They learn that they have value beyond what they ever could have dreamed, and they learn to teach that to their children.
Brooka and I learned the value of growing up with a good dad. I didn't always think my dad was good. I don't have many positive memories of my 17 years with him. But my dad came home every night to be with his family. He worked hard for us. He took care of us, and he never left us. If anyone ever would have laid a hand on me, I think it's possible he would have killed him. I know that all the big pieces in my life--my education, my emotional and financial stability, my sense of responsibility, and especially my faith--came as a result of my dad sticking around. I'm sure he didn't always want to, but I am so grateful he did.
And I'm so, so grateful for my kids' father. It was simply the grace of God that led me to such a good man. A man who would not just stick around, but would love my three daughters and one son every minute of every day, completely and unconditionally. And who would have a whole lot of fun with them in the process. Brooka and I talked about this on the plane trip home, about how her life is different from her new Fijian friends not only because of the place she was born and the community she grew up in, but most importantly because of the good man who is her father.
That realization is precious: worthy of value, not to be wasted or treated carelessly.
Saturday, June 22, 2019
The Best Part of Being a Parent
For me, the best part of being a parent is watching how all the wiring and gifting and experiences come together to shape our children. We know nothing about our babies when we bring them home from the hospital. We have dreams for them, and on our best days we have ideas about how we want to raise them, but truly, they are little 8-pound mysteries.
And then who they are--the person God created them to be--gradually comes into focus. We moms and dads begin to see patterns and connect the dots. On our best days we create opportunities for this emerging person to try new things and think new thoughts. We create spaces for them to expand and to hear from the One who knows exactly who they are and who they're meant to become.
One of my little people, Brooka, began talking about "preaching" when she was 4. She learned about a specific country she wanted to go to, one across the world that her dad and I had never given a thought. A little later she learned the word "missionary." Before she even started kindergarten, she would tell her sister she was sorry she wouldn't make it to her wedding, but she'd be too busy preaching in a far-away land. We all looked at her like she was nuts. Who was this child saying such strange things?
But even stranger, it lasted. While Addison grew out of her desire to be a fireman and a farmer, and Braden left behind his Indiana Jones days and thoughts of being an archaeologist, Brooka hasn't wavered. And the dots seemed to line up: her steady faith, easy-going nature, fearlessness, ability to make quick friends, enjoyment of children, ease and comfort with people from other cultures, ability to sleep and use the bathroom literally anywhere, and the way she does sick so well, pushing through anything no matter how she feels.
God gave this child to a mom who hadn't been out of North America until she was 43. Who has no vision for living anywhere but Colorado. Who eats five foods, none of which can touch (as my mother says of me). But I'm also a mom who prays daily for my children to have godly vision for their lives. And I'm a mom who has learned to create space for God to give them that vision.
Our space next week will be Fiji. Brooka and I are going to serve with a ministry that works with sex-traffic victims. These are girls approximately Brooka's age who have young children of their own. How do you prepare for something so intense, so radically different from anything you've ever known? No idea, except to pray. Pray and trust that God has been preparing Brooka for this her whole life. He must have been preparing me as well because there was no way I was missing out on seeing my daughter on her first missions trip. She can go alone every year from here on out, but wild horses (which in this case look like $2,000 and 13-hour plane trips) couldn't keep me from processing this experience with her in real time.
I'll get to cheer her on if this feels like the direction God is sending her. And I'll have to put on my Big Girl Pants and begin the hard work of setting her free, surrendering my fear and sadness at the thought of her living a world away. Or, I could end up sitting with her in the confusion of her calling if she feels like this just isn't it, telling her it's OK to dream different dreams and creating space for new vision. Either way, I hear God calling me to hold it all loosely. To trust Him and remember that He knows exactly what's best for Brooka.
Will you pray for us?
And then who they are--the person God created them to be--gradually comes into focus. We moms and dads begin to see patterns and connect the dots. On our best days we create opportunities for this emerging person to try new things and think new thoughts. We create spaces for them to expand and to hear from the One who knows exactly who they are and who they're meant to become.
One of my little people, Brooka, began talking about "preaching" when she was 4. She learned about a specific country she wanted to go to, one across the world that her dad and I had never given a thought. A little later she learned the word "missionary." Before she even started kindergarten, she would tell her sister she was sorry she wouldn't make it to her wedding, but she'd be too busy preaching in a far-away land. We all looked at her like she was nuts. Who was this child saying such strange things?
But even stranger, it lasted. While Addison grew out of her desire to be a fireman and a farmer, and Braden left behind his Indiana Jones days and thoughts of being an archaeologist, Brooka hasn't wavered. And the dots seemed to line up: her steady faith, easy-going nature, fearlessness, ability to make quick friends, enjoyment of children, ease and comfort with people from other cultures, ability to sleep and use the bathroom literally anywhere, and the way she does sick so well, pushing through anything no matter how she feels.
God gave this child to a mom who hadn't been out of North America until she was 43. Who has no vision for living anywhere but Colorado. Who eats five foods, none of which can touch (as my mother says of me). But I'm also a mom who prays daily for my children to have godly vision for their lives. And I'm a mom who has learned to create space for God to give them that vision.
Our space next week will be Fiji. Brooka and I are going to serve with a ministry that works with sex-traffic victims. These are girls approximately Brooka's age who have young children of their own. How do you prepare for something so intense, so radically different from anything you've ever known? No idea, except to pray. Pray and trust that God has been preparing Brooka for this her whole life. He must have been preparing me as well because there was no way I was missing out on seeing my daughter on her first missions trip. She can go alone every year from here on out, but wild horses (which in this case look like $2,000 and 13-hour plane trips) couldn't keep me from processing this experience with her in real time.
I'll get to cheer her on if this feels like the direction God is sending her. And I'll have to put on my Big Girl Pants and begin the hard work of setting her free, surrendering my fear and sadness at the thought of her living a world away. Or, I could end up sitting with her in the confusion of her calling if she feels like this just isn't it, telling her it's OK to dream different dreams and creating space for new vision. Either way, I hear God calling me to hold it all loosely. To trust Him and remember that He knows exactly what's best for Brooka.
Will you pray for us?
- That we'll know how to love and bless the girls we're with and will give generously of ourselves.
- That we'll keep our eyes and ears open to what God wants to show us.
- That Brooka will be sensitive to the Holy Spirit in knowing if this is the way of life God is calling her to, and that I'll have wisdom to know how to process with her.
- That we'll hold it all loosely, letting go of our agendas and expectations and enjoying whatever He has planned for us.
Wednesday, May 22, 2019
Tomorrow
Hear that giant door slamming shut? Pay it no mind, it's just a season of my life (a third of my life, but who's counting?) closing shop. Tomorrow my youngest child finishes elementary school. The school down the street. The one we bought a house next to because we practically lived there. The one where we've deeply, intensely invested the past 14 years of our lives. The place our kids entered as nervous, needy 5-year-olds and emerged as confident, independent adolescents.
We're ready to go. Junior high beckons my girl, and she's eager to move on. She has new friends to make and new interests to discover. I'm ready, too. I am done with art shows, spelling tests, living museums, costume days, field day, and freezing cold trips in May to the Botanical Gardens. I don't need to make another trip to the Capitol with 80 rowdy 4th graders or eat a sack lunch on a cold, hard floor. I don't need to bring in another pack of juice boxes or attempt to grade another logic packet. I definitely don't need to spend another minute in the elementary carpool. I'm truly grateful for every blessed day I got to do those things and that I got to do them times four, but I can be done. I need to be done. The elementary moms with their baby slings and tattoos remind me that it is time for a new generation to take its place. (It already has, actually, I've just lingered far longer than the other Gen X moms.) But still, it won't be an easy goodbye for historical me. I can't say goodbye to a pair of socks without a whole lot of processing and reflection.
Tomorrow the other kids, grades K-5, will line the hallways outside their classrooms. Someone will cue the tears, and Chariots of Fire will be blasted over the loud speaker. The sixth graders will enter at the kindergarten wing and run through the halls, high-fiving the younger ones who will take their place. Their former teachers will cheer them on, and as they make their way to the sixth grade hall, a clump of weepy parents will try to forget about themselves and instead clap wildly for the achievement of their children. Oh, it won't be easy. Ugly crying is my best possible outcome. Worst case scenario involves the MERT team and an ambulance. It is Chariots of Fire, after all.
But good is rarely easy. And this is good. This is "How-blessed-was-I-to-get-to-do-this-for-14-years-of-my-life?" good. The very, very best kind of good.
We're ready to go. Junior high beckons my girl, and she's eager to move on. She has new friends to make and new interests to discover. I'm ready, too. I am done with art shows, spelling tests, living museums, costume days, field day, and freezing cold trips in May to the Botanical Gardens. I don't need to make another trip to the Capitol with 80 rowdy 4th graders or eat a sack lunch on a cold, hard floor. I don't need to bring in another pack of juice boxes or attempt to grade another logic packet. I definitely don't need to spend another minute in the elementary carpool. I'm truly grateful for every blessed day I got to do those things and that I got to do them times four, but I can be done. I need to be done. The elementary moms with their baby slings and tattoos remind me that it is time for a new generation to take its place. (It already has, actually, I've just lingered far longer than the other Gen X moms.) But still, it won't be an easy goodbye for historical me. I can't say goodbye to a pair of socks without a whole lot of processing and reflection.
Tomorrow the other kids, grades K-5, will line the hallways outside their classrooms. Someone will cue the tears, and Chariots of Fire will be blasted over the loud speaker. The sixth graders will enter at the kindergarten wing and run through the halls, high-fiving the younger ones who will take their place. Their former teachers will cheer them on, and as they make their way to the sixth grade hall, a clump of weepy parents will try to forget about themselves and instead clap wildly for the achievement of their children. Oh, it won't be easy. Ugly crying is my best possible outcome. Worst case scenario involves the MERT team and an ambulance. It is Chariots of Fire, after all.
But good is rarely easy. And this is good. This is "How-blessed-was-I-to-get-to-do-this-for-14-years-of-my-life?" good. The very, very best kind of good.
Sunday, May 12, 2019
On Mother's Day
Twenty years ago on Mother's Day, I was just beginning to fill out my maternity clothes. Strangers were asking with more confidence, "When is your baby due?" I was signing up for Lamaze and baby CPR classes, practicing different boy and girl names in my head, and making tentative peeks down the baby aisle at Target to see what in the world I was getting into. I didn't know it then, of course, but what I was getting into was the greatest experience of my life. I would not have said that six weeks in, or even six months in. I wasn't thinking that during all those Mother's Days photo ops when you could bet money that one of my kids would be kicking and wailing. But this morning, walking around my prayer track, I could think of nothing else: Getting to be part of this family and being a mom to these four kids has been the joy of my life. As I thanked God this morning, some thoughts came to mind:
- There was a toilet paper commercial in the 80s that sang out, "Because little things mean a lot." This is my anthem as a mom of nearly-grown children. I'm not looking for grand vacations or life-altering family conversations. I'll happily take the six of us simply inhabiting the same space. Last weekend, Kevin and I went to church by ourselves. This Sunday, four kids sat with us. That means a lot. Riding in a car with every seat full means a lot. Asking for a table for six at a restaurant means a lot. Overhearing my kids all laughing together means a lot.
- I no longer want peace and quiet for Mother's Day. I want loud and rambunctious and all in.
- I'm so glad I couldn't really freeze time when my children were 4, 7, 9, and 11. I thought those were the perfect ages, that our life couldn't get any better. I was a little scared of the thought of teenagers. But I can say now that 12, 15, 17, and 19 is as good as it's ever been. Younger moms, please don't dread the passing of time and the aging of your kids. It keeps getting better!
- As a mom, I live with constant tension between the short term and the long term, between what is best for my kids and what my heart wants. I could write a book or preach a sermon on raising independent kids who have the space to learn from failure, but I always have to fight my natural urge to rescue them. Two days ago one of my high schoolers got herself into a big pickle. I spent the entire day forcing myself not to help her. It nearly killed me, until she walked in the door at 8 p.m. and said, "That all turned out really well." It turned out well because of her, not because of me.
- Bulldozing my firstborn child out of the nest and sending him 1,500 miles away to college was more gut-wrenching than I could have imagined. But hearing him say, in one of our prolific emails to each other, that "this is why it's probably good to go far away to college," made it worth all the heartache.
- I suspect that the hardest part of my mothering experience is yet to come, the part where I have to grow beyond my identity as "mom" to become the full "me" God created me to be. That growth, I imagine, will come in a very quiet house. I have to talk myself into believing that that stage, too, will be every bit as good as the parts that came before.
Happy Mother's Day to all of you, mother or not, who have loved others tirelessly and selflessly. You're better for it, and so is the world around you.
Saturday, April 13, 2019
The Week Before Easter
Easter is coming. It's late this year, but it's finally on its way. It feels like we've been waiting a long time.
I need Easter, especially in the spring. I'm running on fumes in the spring, depleted by my own commitments and self-focus. The days come fast and furious, one event after another after another, the calendar an unrelenting taskmaster. Rest and reflection are elusive. I have to fight for them. Holy, transcendent thoughts are suppressed by those that seem more urgent: I must figure out this new computer. Who will drive to the track meet Saturday? Do we have enough bread for sandwiches? Can she possibly get a good enough scholarship to afford that college she dreams of?
But Easter's coming, and I want to be ready for it. I force my thoughts in a different direction. I wake up each day to a devotional full of scripture, art, music, poetry, and meaningful reflections that lift my thoughts upward. (It's from Biola University's Center for Christianity, Culture and the Arts, and it's worth checking out.) As it's still winter in Colorado, I bundle up and walk circles around my track, trying to do the nearly impossible work of shutting out the calendar's demands to focus my mind on Christ and Christ alone.
I am transfixed by something I read a few days ago. Anglican pastor and famed writer John Stott told of visiting a temple in Asia and encountering a "placid, remote-looking Buddha statue." We've all seen them and instantly recognize the fat belly, the closed eyes, and the slightly smug expression. Stott's mind immediately turned instead "to that lonely, twisted, tortured figure on the cross, nails through hands and feet, back lacerated, limbs wrenched, brow bleeding from thorn-pricks, mouth dry and intolerably thirsty, plunged in God-forsaken darkness. This is the God for me!" This is the God of Easter.
My girls and I recently saw The Thorn in Denver. Although it was my fourth time, every show is a little different, and this one had an addition that caught me by surprise. As the man playing Jesus hung on the cross, the stage was completely silent. No one moved or spoke. And for one long minute, all we heard was painful, terrible gasping from the man on the cross. His whole body shook as the guttural, horrific sounds escaped from his chest. It was almost unbearable, even as I knew this man would get down and celebrate at a cast party an hour later.
This is the God for me. The one who knows what it's like to be human, who knows rejection, suffering, and death. The one who understands my distracted, undisciplined thinking, my forgetfulness and faithlessness, my continual temptation toward sin, and loves me anyway. Help me lean in, Jesus, to those unforced rhythms of grace (Matt. 11:29-30, MSG) that run so contrary to my world and my cluttery mind.
I'm ready for Easter.
I need Easter, especially in the spring. I'm running on fumes in the spring, depleted by my own commitments and self-focus. The days come fast and furious, one event after another after another, the calendar an unrelenting taskmaster. Rest and reflection are elusive. I have to fight for them. Holy, transcendent thoughts are suppressed by those that seem more urgent: I must figure out this new computer. Who will drive to the track meet Saturday? Do we have enough bread for sandwiches? Can she possibly get a good enough scholarship to afford that college she dreams of?
But Easter's coming, and I want to be ready for it. I force my thoughts in a different direction. I wake up each day to a devotional full of scripture, art, music, poetry, and meaningful reflections that lift my thoughts upward. (It's from Biola University's Center for Christianity, Culture and the Arts, and it's worth checking out.) As it's still winter in Colorado, I bundle up and walk circles around my track, trying to do the nearly impossible work of shutting out the calendar's demands to focus my mind on Christ and Christ alone.
I am transfixed by something I read a few days ago. Anglican pastor and famed writer John Stott told of visiting a temple in Asia and encountering a "placid, remote-looking Buddha statue." We've all seen them and instantly recognize the fat belly, the closed eyes, and the slightly smug expression. Stott's mind immediately turned instead "to that lonely, twisted, tortured figure on the cross, nails through hands and feet, back lacerated, limbs wrenched, brow bleeding from thorn-pricks, mouth dry and intolerably thirsty, plunged in God-forsaken darkness. This is the God for me!" This is the God of Easter.
My girls and I recently saw The Thorn in Denver. Although it was my fourth time, every show is a little different, and this one had an addition that caught me by surprise. As the man playing Jesus hung on the cross, the stage was completely silent. No one moved or spoke. And for one long minute, all we heard was painful, terrible gasping from the man on the cross. His whole body shook as the guttural, horrific sounds escaped from his chest. It was almost unbearable, even as I knew this man would get down and celebrate at a cast party an hour later.
This is the God for me. The one who knows what it's like to be human, who knows rejection, suffering, and death. The one who understands my distracted, undisciplined thinking, my forgetfulness and faithlessness, my continual temptation toward sin, and loves me anyway. Help me lean in, Jesus, to those unforced rhythms of grace (Matt. 11:29-30, MSG) that run so contrary to my world and my cluttery mind.
I'm ready for Easter.
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