Making Plans

You know that old saying that if you want to make God laugh, just make some plans? Is that loving laughter I hear coming from heaven? Directed at me?

Last year, when my youngest was in half-day kindergarten, I methodically prayed over the school year to come, the one we’re in now. I knew I was entering a new season of life with no kids at home during the day, and I didn’t want to be caught off guard, wondering what to do with it. So for days, I sat with my Bible and my journal, making lists and, yes, making plans. I felt surrendered and open. I felt like I was in tune with the Holy Spirit, that I was listening. Maybe I should have been listening for chuckles.

Of the five new priorities I made for the year, two have panned out. Three went nowhere—two fizzling out beyond my control, and one that, despite my best efforts, just wasn’t a good fit.

Then there’s the things that weren’t on my list. Russia! Maybe God could have whispered the words “international travel” in my ear. Maybe He could have planted the idea of getting a passport so I didn’t have to pay a rush-delivery fee later. He could have even put Russia on my heart. I sat in that chair a while; it wasn’t like I didn’t give Him time to speak.

Or what about working in an office again? Just four days after I returned from Russia, I got a part-time job offer. Didn’t see that coming. At all. If I would’ve had a hint of that last year, I could have replaced some of my sweatpants with work clothes. Maybe researched some good crockpot recipes. Not signed up to be my daughter’s room mom! And certainly I would have polished up on my writing and editing skills. But working in an office, as much as I’m enjoying it, was the furthest thing from my mind three months ago.

Proverbs 16:9 says that while we make our own plans, the Lord is the one who determines our steps. It’s pretty unrealistic to live without plans, so I don’t think that’s the point of this instruction. What I need to remember in the midst of my planning is that all my steps—from the small ones to the refrigerator to the big ones that take me to Russia—are up to God. My life is completely in His hands, and He determines whether I can even walk at all. He opens the doors I walk through; He shuts the ones that require me to stand and wait. Sometimes I’ll walk the exact path I had in mind, and other times it will be a strange, unfamiliar path. But it’s still His path. And there’s probably a very good reason why He didn’t tell me about it any sooner than I needed to know.

James, the brother of Jesus, wasn’t nearly as lyrical as the psalmist when he wrote about this same idea. In his always-blunt way, he said: “You don’t even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes” (James 4:14). So from one mist to another, I ask you, how tightly are you holding on to your plans?

I don’t think God minds our plans. My son used to wake up in the morning with plans to start a secret club that day and invite all the members over for a secret meeting. Nevermind that he was four and didn’t have friends or that what we were really doing that day was dishes and laundry and a grocery run. I loved hearing his cheerful little voice telling me what he was going to do, even while knowing it wasn’t going to pan out for him. Maybe that’s how God feels about us. Maybe He even delights in hearing our plans, especially at the end when we hold them up and say, “Or not, Lord. Up to you.” 

He Who Calls Is Faithful

I went to Russia with an American ministry founded by an American man who takes American volunteers to help Russians. It’s to be expected, then, that the success stories I saw had an American influence. No doubt there are Russian orphans who grew into happy, healthy adults without ever crossing paths with an American, but someone else will have to tell their stories.

My first night in Russia—at least I think it was night because it was dark, but since we hadn’t slept in 30 hours, my sense of time was foggy—we had dinner with four young adults in their late 20s. They grew up together in the Mstyora Orphanage, which just happens to be the orphanage my church, Woodmen Valley Chapel in Colorado Springs, has supported for 19 years. In the 11 years I’ve been attending that church, I’ve heard the name “Mstyora” dozens of times without knowing what it was or what the people of my church had invested there. Yet here I was, seeing the fruit of their labor right before my eyes. One is a successful businessman. Three are now parents themselves. There were a brother and sister with us, and when we asked the young woman if her brother is a good dad, she said, “Yes, he’s always been a good dad. He was a good ‘dad’ in the orphanage.” Everyone at the table nodded, knowing exactly what she meant. One mother said she kisses her young sons all the time and will never leave them “the way my mom left me.” The son who was with her that night clearly adored her. They shared the funny memories they have from Mstyora—one dumping a bucket of dirty water on the other’s head—and they talked about the love they felt from the people of Woodmen Valley Chapel. When they found out that’s my church, their eyes lit up. Did I know so-and-so? I don’t really, but I said I know of him. “Oh, give him my love!” said a young man whose life was clearly impacted forever by one man half a world away.

Later I met two Natashas who grew up together in an orphanage. (Natasha, I’m convinced, is the National Name of Russia.) After aging out of their orphanage, they were sent to a tech school, where, supposedly, they would begin thinking about how to get by in this world. But their childhood scars left them detached and apathetic, and with no thoughts about the future beyond how to make it to the next day. Then they met an American woman, a missionary who had responded to a call to love girls just like these Natashas. She pursued them hard, which sometimes made them a little uncomfortable. Once she even threatened to lock them in a room until they told her what they were going to do with their lives. In what was primarily an effort to remove her from their backs, they both threw out the idea of studying English. Soon they were both studying with a private English tutor, paid for by the missionary and her church. Today, one works as a translator and office manager and the other as an assistant at the Canadian Embassy in Moscow. They are smart, well-spoken, confident, thriving, and beautiful.

Last time I wrote about Antonina, the orphanage director who kept her kids fed on whatever food she could barter for, using whatever plates and forks her staff could rummage up from home. Antonina pieced things together for eight hard years, and then a group from an American church stumbled upon her great need. This Pennsylvanian church provided beds, mattresses, and new windows to keep out the bitter cold. That was only the start. They befriended the children, and perhaps more importantly, they befriended Antonina and gave her the encouragement to keep at it. The orphanage slowly but surely turned around. With tears in her eyes, she recalled her deep gratitude to “Ray” and his team from Pennsylvania.

Time and time again, I saw that the love extended from Americans was multiplied many times over in the Russians who received it. Yes, we Americans are guilty of rushing in to meet a need and then leaving as quickly as we arrived. We can be culturally clueless and insensitive. We’re too loud, too proud, and too optimistic. But sometimes what we do works. If God’s in it, it always works. Hope wins and a life is changed. All because someone heard the call and answered. 

My mission field is so much smaller than the country of Russia. Right now, in addition to my family, it’s 17 little girls who I get to read and study the Scriptures with. They all live in nice houses with parents who love them, but the idea is the same: investing in their young lives by teaching them the truth of who God says they are and how much He loves them. I have to remind myself that just because it’s so easy to love and teach them—no pricey airplane ticket, jetlag, or cold Russian winters required—it’s no less meaningful a call. I believe that’s one of the big things God wanted to show me in Russia: the power of investing in one or seventeen or a couple hundred lives, of just faithfully showing up and doing what God tells you to do. When we respond to His call, He multiplies our efforts in ways we could never imagine. This is the Father’s business. How grateful I am that He chooses to let us in on it.

“God will make this happen, for he who calls you is faithful.”

1 Thessalonians 5:24 (NLT) 

The ’90s I Didn't Know

What were you doing in the ’90s? I was living the idyllic college life in Santa Barbara, followed by a move to Los Angeles, then back to Colorado where I began living out my dreams: a meaningful career, a wonderful husband, a safe home.

I clearly remember the Berlin wall coming down in 1989 and learning that communism had fallen in the USSR in 1991. Those were the headlines, and that’s where my awareness ended. In 1994 I wrote stories for The Navigators about our involvement with CoMission, an evangelical effort that sent hundreds of American missionaries into the former Soviet Union to teach “Judeo-Christian ethics.” Friends who traveled with CoMission reported rolling power outages and hot water that lasted only an hour a day. To me it sounded exotic and adventurous.

It was anything but that for the Russian people who lived through it. It was more like hell. While we were cheering the end of communism, they were living in political and economic chaos. Salaries were not paid. Life savings vanished in a day with the devaluing of the ruble. Homes were cold. Shelves were bare. Children were starving. Everyone felt it, but among those who suffered most were the orphans, the most overlooked group in every society. Put simply and crudely, it sucked to be a Russian orphan in the ’90s. 

One of the most heartbreaking stories I heard in Russia came from Antonina, who was an orphanage director in the ’90s. When she started her job, she had no idea what she was getting into. Suddenly in charge of 148 orphans, she realized she had only worthless government vouchers and a pile of spoiled cabbage to feed them. Their kitchen had less than 20 plates and cups—for 148 children. Hopeless, she decided she couldn’t do this and would have to resign. She had her resignation letter written when she went down to the kitchen and saw some children fighting over a scrap of bread that one of the staff had left behind. With tears in her eyes twenty years later, Antonina told us she knew she had to stay and find a way to feed these children.

Searching for food became a full-time job. She learned to barter and work the system. She asked her staff to share anything they could with the orphans. She kept her children fed. They were the lucky ones. One of our translators grew up in a different orphanage in the ’90s, and she did not fare so well. The director of her orphanage actually stole the food from his orphans, leaving them to forage in fields for whatever they could survive on.

These stories filled my head as I spent day after day in Russia with these “older orphans.” They are now in their twenties, and many have children of their own. Some of them have beautiful redemption stories. Others are still stuck in the hopelessness of their painful childhoods. I learned the hard way not to ask them about their hopes and dreams. This is an inappropriate question for people who grew up in chaos and instability and never learned to have dreams for themselves. How can you have dreams for the future when you don’t know if you’ll have food for the day? They had much to teach this smiley American woman who’s never known a day in her life in which her government, her money, and her security were not assured.

And yet the success stories I saw in Russia are many. I’ll tell some of those next time. 

The Russia Beyond Sochi

The news reports are starting to pour in from Sochi, and Russia’s looking more laughable than respectable. Sure the mountains are pretty, but people are scratching their heads over the palm trees that also line the streets of this home to the winter Olympics. Western journalists are also aghast at the, um, unpredictable conditions they've found in their hotels and restaurants.

While the rest of Europe was progressing and thriving in the 20^th century, Russia was under the influence of anything-but-progressive Communists. Americans think of Russia and picture Hunt for the Red October’s floating missile arsenal or weapons of mass destruction that could take out whole U.S. cities. But while impressing the world with its military might, Russia was letting its citizens make do with whatever was left over, which wasn’t much. For example, you still see a few Russian cars on Moscow roads, but most of them broke down so often and so quickly that they were hardly worth driving.

Russia is old. Its infrastructure is old. So are its roads, its buildings, its heating systems. Many of the students we met at tech schools are being trained in “refurbishing.” It makes sense that you would need this skill in a country with old walls, old floors, old heat, and old chairs.

Russia wants to put its best foot forward in Sochi. I find myself rooting for that, too. Not because I want Russian politicians to shine in the international spotlight, but because of the real Russians I now know. Before my trip, my 12-year-old daughter asked me why people live in Russia. I wasn’t able to tell her, but I told her I’d find out. I came home with a very simple answer: They live there because they were born there, and they are proud to call Russia their home.

When the world laughs at crazy Russian toilets or poorly translated signs (and for some reason, all their signs are poorly translated into English), I picture the proud Russian women I saw walking the streets in their fur coats and hats. Their faces were tired and old beyond their years, but they still get up every morning, bundle up, and walk two miles on icy streets to do their shopping. I picture the proud older orphans who survived conditions none of us can imagine and are smiling and happy today. I picture the hardships generations upon generations of Russian people have endured, and I marvel at their strength and stamina.

I hope you’ll think of them as you watch the games in Sochi. They are the real Russia.