What if God walked into my house on New Year’s Eve and gave me two options for 2010?
I heard something like this in a Francis Chan sermon, and it really made me think. Option A is that I have a fun, easy year in which everything goes my way, everything I attempt succeeds, every prayer I pray is answered just the way I want. Option B is a year full of struggle in which nothing goes my way, but at the end of it, I have much deeper knowledge of God and fellowship with Him. Which would I take?
I love easy. Easy sounds so nice (and rare). And who doesn’t love to get their way? This is not a simple decision for me. But still, I would choose B. Do I really just want my life to be easy? Or do I want it to have great purpose, the kind of purpose I can only find by following God all out?
One of my mom friends talks about confidence-building years and character-building years at school. Sometimes kids get the teacher they want, the friends they want, the desk they want, and everything comes easy. That’s a confidence year. Other years are a struggle—relationships are hard, assignments are hard—but it’s those years that build their character.
You know what, God? For 2010, I’m gonna muster up all my courage and choose character. Because here’s the deal. I’m also going to get confidence out of it—only my confidence won’t be misplaced. It will be rooted in someone much greater than myself, the one I trust most with my life.
Sunday, December 27, 2009
Sunday, December 20, 2009
How Christmas Ought to Be
Dizzy yet?
Everyone I know, including myself, is running on empty right now, yet still dashing a hundred miles an hour in a hundred directions. That’s December for you. So why is it that we’re doing as much as we can as well as we can, yet things still don’t seem quite the way they ought to be?
My best friend Kendra and I were pondering this the other day. (At least we’re doing the pondering thing right.) Kendra is, in my estimation, a domestic goddess, who believes gifts, treats, and meals should all be homemade. Hers aren’t this year—at least not all of them—and that makes her feel like Christmas isn’t what it ought to be. I make nothing from scratch (except children) and avoid cooking and crafts as much as possible, yet I have my own Christmas expectations for myself. If I don’t send out a fun-to-read Christmas letter—in a hand-addressed envelope—in a timely manner, Christmas to me isn’t what it ought to be.
You can tell a lot about what a woman believes about herself if you follow her around during the month of December. The women who have to give the best gifts are shopping all the time. The decorators are decorating. The bakers are baking. The Christmas program directors are directing. The best-moms-ever are sitting in the front row at every party and pageant. And Kendra and I are trying our best to do what we do, but feeling disappointed that we’re not living up to our expectations of ourselves.
And the worshipers? Hmmm. I don’t know many of them. I’d like to know more. They’re the ones whose identities are not rooted in what they do or what other people think of them; they’re rooted in the truth of who God created them to be. I think they may be the “faithful” ones of “O, Come, All Ye Faithful” fame, joyful and triumphant, not tired and disappointed. And what are they doing this December? Adoring Jesus. The way they “ought” to be.
Now why didn’t I think of that?
Everyone I know, including myself, is running on empty right now, yet still dashing a hundred miles an hour in a hundred directions. That’s December for you. So why is it that we’re doing as much as we can as well as we can, yet things still don’t seem quite the way they ought to be?
My best friend Kendra and I were pondering this the other day. (At least we’re doing the pondering thing right.) Kendra is, in my estimation, a domestic goddess, who believes gifts, treats, and meals should all be homemade. Hers aren’t this year—at least not all of them—and that makes her feel like Christmas isn’t what it ought to be. I make nothing from scratch (except children) and avoid cooking and crafts as much as possible, yet I have my own Christmas expectations for myself. If I don’t send out a fun-to-read Christmas letter—in a hand-addressed envelope—in a timely manner, Christmas to me isn’t what it ought to be.
You can tell a lot about what a woman believes about herself if you follow her around during the month of December. The women who have to give the best gifts are shopping all the time. The decorators are decorating. The bakers are baking. The Christmas program directors are directing. The best-moms-ever are sitting in the front row at every party and pageant. And Kendra and I are trying our best to do what we do, but feeling disappointed that we’re not living up to our expectations of ourselves.
And the worshipers? Hmmm. I don’t know many of them. I’d like to know more. They’re the ones whose identities are not rooted in what they do or what other people think of them; they’re rooted in the truth of who God created them to be. I think they may be the “faithful” ones of “O, Come, All Ye Faithful” fame, joyful and triumphant, not tired and disappointed. And what are they doing this December? Adoring Jesus. The way they “ought” to be.
Now why didn’t I think of that?
Monday, December 14, 2009
Aiming at Amazement
I may use the word “amazing” all the time, but rarely do I experience true amazement. Life is routine. I take most things for granted. I spend very little time genuinely amazed.
That’s no way to live.
I’ve been trying to live differently, to cultivate some sense of amazement. And as if to confirm this lofty goal, our pastor started a series this month on amazement. Go figure. How amazing is that? We’ve been traversing through the Christmas story recorded in Luke 2, and this week we landed on one of my favorite verses in the whole Bible. “But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.”
Amazement starts with treasuring and pondering. Aren’t those the greatest words? They’re so rich with meaning. They’re also not something you can do on the fly, while zipping through the mall or racing across town in your minivan. Treasuring means appreciating every moment, sitting in it and savoring it—even when it’s painful or inconvenient. I am faced with choices all day long to either treasure the words my little children say or cut them off because they’re talking too much and I’ve got things to do. It’s a hard choice in the moment, but I feel so much better when I treasure.
Pondering is taking all those treasured moments and doing something with them. Understanding them. Connecting them. Letting them change you. I can race from one thing to the next with no time for reflection, or I can take a moment to sit and ponder what it all means. That may seem like a waste of time sometimes, but when I ponder, when I allow myself to process and feel and care, I feel like I’m living life to the fullest. We moved our “baby” to a big-girl bed this weekend, and as much as I wanted to think of it as an ordinary, meaningless task, I couldn’t. I had to ponder the significance of this event in my life—the end of a 10 ½-year baby era. That crib holds a lot of symbolism for me, and I let myself ponder it for a while, even though it made me cry. I have a hunch that crying and amazement are pretty good friends.
Mary must have been so overwhelmed by it all—people questioning her story, the long journey to Bethlehem, dreadful contractions, the birth of a baby in a strange, smelly place. Surely this wasn’t how she had pictured motherhood. Then shepherds and kings started showing up and making all sorts of grand pronouncements about her baby. I’d be doing well just to endure it. But Mary did more than endure; she treasured and pondered. I bet she was pretty amazed by it all.
Help me, Lord, to know this kind of amazement.
That’s no way to live.
I’ve been trying to live differently, to cultivate some sense of amazement. And as if to confirm this lofty goal, our pastor started a series this month on amazement. Go figure. How amazing is that? We’ve been traversing through the Christmas story recorded in Luke 2, and this week we landed on one of my favorite verses in the whole Bible. “But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart.”
Amazement starts with treasuring and pondering. Aren’t those the greatest words? They’re so rich with meaning. They’re also not something you can do on the fly, while zipping through the mall or racing across town in your minivan. Treasuring means appreciating every moment, sitting in it and savoring it—even when it’s painful or inconvenient. I am faced with choices all day long to either treasure the words my little children say or cut them off because they’re talking too much and I’ve got things to do. It’s a hard choice in the moment, but I feel so much better when I treasure.
Pondering is taking all those treasured moments and doing something with them. Understanding them. Connecting them. Letting them change you. I can race from one thing to the next with no time for reflection, or I can take a moment to sit and ponder what it all means. That may seem like a waste of time sometimes, but when I ponder, when I allow myself to process and feel and care, I feel like I’m living life to the fullest. We moved our “baby” to a big-girl bed this weekend, and as much as I wanted to think of it as an ordinary, meaningless task, I couldn’t. I had to ponder the significance of this event in my life—the end of a 10 ½-year baby era. That crib holds a lot of symbolism for me, and I let myself ponder it for a while, even though it made me cry. I have a hunch that crying and amazement are pretty good friends.
Mary must have been so overwhelmed by it all—people questioning her story, the long journey to Bethlehem, dreadful contractions, the birth of a baby in a strange, smelly place. Surely this wasn’t how she had pictured motherhood. Then shepherds and kings started showing up and making all sorts of grand pronouncements about her baby. I’d be doing well just to endure it. But Mary did more than endure; she treasured and pondered. I bet she was pretty amazed by it all.
Help me, Lord, to know this kind of amazement.
Monday, December 7, 2009
Soul Worthy
“He appeared and the soul felt its worth.”
O Holy Night has been my favorite Christmas song for about a decade. Before that, it was just that song with the huge range that was very hard to sing. Then one night as I was driving, it came on the radio and I really heard the words for the first time. Long lay the world in sin and error pining, till He appeared and the soul felt its worth.
And a weary world rejoiced.
Could any words written in 1847 be more relevant in 2009? We’re still a world pining away in disobedience to God, dealing with the consequences of our errors. And have we ever been more weary? But God broke through, brought us Truth and Hope in the person of Jesus, and now our souls can feel their worth. In other words, this is why we were created. I picture a Christmas bulb—the big 1970’s kind that still hangs from my in-law’s porch—fine enough without anything glowing inside of it, but not doing what it was created to do. It’s not until you plug it in and it actually shines that the bulb is doing what its creator intended.
One holy night, Jesus came, and light filled our empty bulbs. Our empty souls were brought to life, doing what they were made to do.
We’ve heard the song a thousand times. Almost as many times as we’ve heard the Christmas story itself. If I try really hard, I can almost imagine what it would be like to hear it for the first time. Not just to hear it—but to actually get it. To understand that it happened just for me, so that my soul, my little soul in 2009, could feel its worth.
Is your soul feeling its worth today?
O Holy Night has been my favorite Christmas song for about a decade. Before that, it was just that song with the huge range that was very hard to sing. Then one night as I was driving, it came on the radio and I really heard the words for the first time. Long lay the world in sin and error pining, till He appeared and the soul felt its worth.
And a weary world rejoiced.
Could any words written in 1847 be more relevant in 2009? We’re still a world pining away in disobedience to God, dealing with the consequences of our errors. And have we ever been more weary? But God broke through, brought us Truth and Hope in the person of Jesus, and now our souls can feel their worth. In other words, this is why we were created. I picture a Christmas bulb—the big 1970’s kind that still hangs from my in-law’s porch—fine enough without anything glowing inside of it, but not doing what it was created to do. It’s not until you plug it in and it actually shines that the bulb is doing what its creator intended.
One holy night, Jesus came, and light filled our empty bulbs. Our empty souls were brought to life, doing what they were made to do.
We’ve heard the song a thousand times. Almost as many times as we’ve heard the Christmas story itself. If I try really hard, I can almost imagine what it would be like to hear it for the first time. Not just to hear it—but to actually get it. To understand that it happened just for me, so that my soul, my little soul in 2009, could feel its worth.
Is your soul feeling its worth today?
Monday, November 30, 2009
What David Can Teach Us About Obama
Here’s an alternative to the “Pray for Obama, Psalm 109:8” slogan that’s been going around. These words also come from David, a man running for his life from a jealous king who wants to kill him. It’s 1 Samuel 26:9. Not as catchy on a t-shirt, maybe, but we can learn a lot from David’s attitude toward people in authority.
David had two easy opportunities to destroy Saul. (The other comes a few chapters earlier, in 1 Samuel 24—as good a read as any Hollywood screenplay.) His friends were telling him to just do it already. Here was a man who was making his life miserable, making poor decisions as a king, and it seemed like God was just handing him over to David to bring down. But this is how David responded to his friends:
“Don’t destroy him! Who can lay a land on the Lord’s anointed and be guiltless?”
Saul may not have been a model for upright governing, but he was still the king. The Lord had put him into that position, and David said that it was only God who would remove him. Either the Lord would strike him Himself or his time would come in battle, but the king’s demise would not come at the hand of David. He even went so far as to call out to Saul’s bodyguard, Abner (Sounds like an imposing figure, doesn’t he?), and tell him what a loser he was for not doing a better job protecting the king.
I don’t know if President Obama is “the Lord’s anointed.” What I do know is that God’s sovereignty is alive and well, even in the United States. And that he “sets up kings and deposes them” (Daniel 2:21). Nothing slips by Him. He didn’t fall down on His watch the day Obama was elected, and He’s not now wringing His hands, hoping His people on earth will help undo His mistake.
There’s really not any reason to pray Psalm 109:8 for our president. His days will be few. In God’s economy, even eight years is the blink of an eye. And another will take his place of leadership. That’s guaranteed by our constitution. Not only does it seem like an unnecessary prayer, its context makes it downright nasty. The following verses go on to say, “May his children be fatherless and his wife a widow. May his children be wandering beggars; may they be driven from their ruined homes. May no one extend kindness to him or take pity on his fatherless children.”
I don’t know if anyone is actually wearing the Psalm 109:8 t-shirt. Maybe someone was just trying to be clever and make a buck, and the media picked up on it to stir up controversy. Still, it’s no secret that some of Obama’s most outspoken critics have been evangelical Christians. While I value the privilege of living under free speech, I think we would be wise to review 1 Samuel 26 and stop destroying our president with our words. We don’t have to love what he’s doing, but if we believe God’s got it under control, we don’t have to spend our days angry and mad, trying to bring him down, either.
“Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a job, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you” (Hebrews 13:17).
David had two easy opportunities to destroy Saul. (The other comes a few chapters earlier, in 1 Samuel 24—as good a read as any Hollywood screenplay.) His friends were telling him to just do it already. Here was a man who was making his life miserable, making poor decisions as a king, and it seemed like God was just handing him over to David to bring down. But this is how David responded to his friends:
“Don’t destroy him! Who can lay a land on the Lord’s anointed and be guiltless?”
Saul may not have been a model for upright governing, but he was still the king. The Lord had put him into that position, and David said that it was only God who would remove him. Either the Lord would strike him Himself or his time would come in battle, but the king’s demise would not come at the hand of David. He even went so far as to call out to Saul’s bodyguard, Abner (Sounds like an imposing figure, doesn’t he?), and tell him what a loser he was for not doing a better job protecting the king.
I don’t know if President Obama is “the Lord’s anointed.” What I do know is that God’s sovereignty is alive and well, even in the United States. And that he “sets up kings and deposes them” (Daniel 2:21). Nothing slips by Him. He didn’t fall down on His watch the day Obama was elected, and He’s not now wringing His hands, hoping His people on earth will help undo His mistake.
There’s really not any reason to pray Psalm 109:8 for our president. His days will be few. In God’s economy, even eight years is the blink of an eye. And another will take his place of leadership. That’s guaranteed by our constitution. Not only does it seem like an unnecessary prayer, its context makes it downright nasty. The following verses go on to say, “May his children be fatherless and his wife a widow. May his children be wandering beggars; may they be driven from their ruined homes. May no one extend kindness to him or take pity on his fatherless children.”
I don’t know if anyone is actually wearing the Psalm 109:8 t-shirt. Maybe someone was just trying to be clever and make a buck, and the media picked up on it to stir up controversy. Still, it’s no secret that some of Obama’s most outspoken critics have been evangelical Christians. While I value the privilege of living under free speech, I think we would be wise to review 1 Samuel 26 and stop destroying our president with our words. We don’t have to love what he’s doing, but if we believe God’s got it under control, we don’t have to spend our days angry and mad, trying to bring him down, either.
“Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a job, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you” (Hebrews 13:17).
Sunday, November 22, 2009
She Gets It
I was much better at following God’s command to serve the poor when I understood that to mean on my own schedule and at my own convenience. Now that I’m trying to cultivate a lifestyle of serving the poor at every opportunity, I don’t do it well. I grumble a lot. I’m not sure I’ll ever do it well or stop complaining about the inconvenience of it all. But I’m hoping that serving will come as naturally for my kids as complaining comes to me. I pray it will be a given for them, not something they struggle against.
Last week we put together a Thanksgiving food basket for a needy family in town, and Wednesday was shopping day. We got to Walmart at 8:15 and left at 10. (I'm sorry to anyone who is offended that we shop at Walmart. Talk to me when I don't have cereal to buy for four children.) We had to find items that I’ve never heard of, in addition to all the regular household stuff we needed. The aisles were full of people—and how fun for me that many of them were people I knew, especially since I was wearing my fat-girl sweatpants and my five-year-old was doing the pee-pee dance. (You know the one.)
Our cart was flowing over when we at last made it to the check-out lane, where ten other lovely people stood ahead of us with their overflowing carts. How handy that at least we were only a few yards from the bathroom. Except that it was closed for cleaning. The pee-pee dance intensified until at last we pushed our way past the cleaning lady out of desperation. A half hour later, we were on our way out of the store and on the road again. It’s that bittersweet moment in which you celebrate the conclusion of another Walmart trip, but realize all the work that lies ahead as you attempt to find a home for all these new items in your over-crowded pantry. Ah, life in America.
I asked Brooka if she would be extra helpful and carry in some of the bajillion bags for me, then piled her up to her eyebrows. As we waddled in the house, she peaked out from under her load and said with cheery determination, “It’s like I’m carrying this for Jesus.”
At that point, I did everything you would imagine. I dropped to my knees. I hugged her hard. I thanked God profusely. “You get it!” I cried. “You get it, Brooka! Oh, I can’t believe you get it. Thank you, God!” I prayed some of that would rub off on me. Then I followed her gaze across the room, wondering why she was giggling. Our ancient relic of a dog—all shriveled 80 pounds of him—was laying on the “good” couch with the newspaper open, looking all caught up on the day’s events.
And somehow, putting all those groceries away wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.
Last week we put together a Thanksgiving food basket for a needy family in town, and Wednesday was shopping day. We got to Walmart at 8:15 and left at 10. (I'm sorry to anyone who is offended that we shop at Walmart. Talk to me when I don't have cereal to buy for four children.) We had to find items that I’ve never heard of, in addition to all the regular household stuff we needed. The aisles were full of people—and how fun for me that many of them were people I knew, especially since I was wearing my fat-girl sweatpants and my five-year-old was doing the pee-pee dance. (You know the one.)
Our cart was flowing over when we at last made it to the check-out lane, where ten other lovely people stood ahead of us with their overflowing carts. How handy that at least we were only a few yards from the bathroom. Except that it was closed for cleaning. The pee-pee dance intensified until at last we pushed our way past the cleaning lady out of desperation. A half hour later, we were on our way out of the store and on the road again. It’s that bittersweet moment in which you celebrate the conclusion of another Walmart trip, but realize all the work that lies ahead as you attempt to find a home for all these new items in your over-crowded pantry. Ah, life in America.
I asked Brooka if she would be extra helpful and carry in some of the bajillion bags for me, then piled her up to her eyebrows. As we waddled in the house, she peaked out from under her load and said with cheery determination, “It’s like I’m carrying this for Jesus.”
At that point, I did everything you would imagine. I dropped to my knees. I hugged her hard. I thanked God profusely. “You get it!” I cried. “You get it, Brooka! Oh, I can’t believe you get it. Thank you, God!” I prayed some of that would rub off on me. Then I followed her gaze across the room, wondering why she was giggling. Our ancient relic of a dog—all shriveled 80 pounds of him—was laying on the “good” couch with the newspaper open, looking all caught up on the day’s events.
And somehow, putting all those groceries away wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be.
Monday, November 16, 2009
When Moving On Means Staying Put
Eleven months ago, we planted a for-sale sign in our yard and buckled in for a wild adventure. We weren’t sure where we’d land, but we were full of faith and following God with reckless (some would say) abandon.
And how’d that work out for us? After scrubbing my kitchen floor more times than I thought humanly possible, we’re right where we started—except with new carpet and a new screen door.
It looks like we’re in the same place, but are we really? Fortunately, no. God made me, and He knows I’ve got to be able to find some purpose in hard things or I’ll just fall over and die. So as I meet with Him, He’s giving me some hint of what these 11 months may have been about:
Faithfulness. I’m very faithful to the things I want to do. But to things that take discipline, sacrifice, and selflessness? Not so much. I think God may have been testing my faithfulness through the little things. Some days I’d be home alone with the kids and have just an hour’s notice to stash the piles, make the beds, load the dishwasher (after unloading it), and everything else involved in showing a respectable home. I’d spend the first five minutes throwing the mother of all fits, screaming (in my head) at God, “I am SO DONE. I can’t keep doing this.” And every time I would hear the same answer: “Yes you can.” And every time it would get done, and I’d feel like a foolish toddler who had just thrown a pointless, selfish fit in front of my Father. It’s easy for me to be faithful to my husband, my children, my TV shows. But God wants us to be faithful in the little things—with the right attitude—before He trusts us with bigger things.
Risk-taking. When we planted that sign in the yard, we had no place to go. We had only a peaceful knowledge that when the time came, God would make a place for us. This is the complete opposite of how I prefer to live my life. I like to know what my kids are wearing to school three days from now, yet I wasn’t even sure where they would be sleeping in the next month. God didn’t call us on it, but I truly think I would have been OK if He had. There’s something about flying without a safety net that makes life richer, that makes relationship with God more urgent.
Surrender. In the past three months, my prayers have gone from bossy requests for God to sell our house (“You put us up to this, Lord, so you better do your part!”) to complete surrender to His will. I thought surrender meant selling our house and giving up our cushy suburban life. But now I believe that surrender only came when I threw up my hands, stopped telling God all my grand plans to serve Him, and finally said, “Whatever.” I think it’s in that whatever place that God can truly work in us. That’s the place I want to stay.
The realtor’s coming to take down the sign this week; we're calling it quits for now (because a sane Christmas is a merry Christmas). Do we feel defeated? Confused? Frustrated? Yeah, a little of all those things. But we also feel pretty certain that we’re right where God wants us, and it’s not a bad place to wait, especially with the new carpet.
And how’d that work out for us? After scrubbing my kitchen floor more times than I thought humanly possible, we’re right where we started—except with new carpet and a new screen door.
It looks like we’re in the same place, but are we really? Fortunately, no. God made me, and He knows I’ve got to be able to find some purpose in hard things or I’ll just fall over and die. So as I meet with Him, He’s giving me some hint of what these 11 months may have been about:
Faithfulness. I’m very faithful to the things I want to do. But to things that take discipline, sacrifice, and selflessness? Not so much. I think God may have been testing my faithfulness through the little things. Some days I’d be home alone with the kids and have just an hour’s notice to stash the piles, make the beds, load the dishwasher (after unloading it), and everything else involved in showing a respectable home. I’d spend the first five minutes throwing the mother of all fits, screaming (in my head) at God, “I am SO DONE. I can’t keep doing this.” And every time I would hear the same answer: “Yes you can.” And every time it would get done, and I’d feel like a foolish toddler who had just thrown a pointless, selfish fit in front of my Father. It’s easy for me to be faithful to my husband, my children, my TV shows. But God wants us to be faithful in the little things—with the right attitude—before He trusts us with bigger things.
Risk-taking. When we planted that sign in the yard, we had no place to go. We had only a peaceful knowledge that when the time came, God would make a place for us. This is the complete opposite of how I prefer to live my life. I like to know what my kids are wearing to school three days from now, yet I wasn’t even sure where they would be sleeping in the next month. God didn’t call us on it, but I truly think I would have been OK if He had. There’s something about flying without a safety net that makes life richer, that makes relationship with God more urgent.
Surrender. In the past three months, my prayers have gone from bossy requests for God to sell our house (“You put us up to this, Lord, so you better do your part!”) to complete surrender to His will. I thought surrender meant selling our house and giving up our cushy suburban life. But now I believe that surrender only came when I threw up my hands, stopped telling God all my grand plans to serve Him, and finally said, “Whatever.” I think it’s in that whatever place that God can truly work in us. That’s the place I want to stay.
The realtor’s coming to take down the sign this week; we're calling it quits for now (because a sane Christmas is a merry Christmas). Do we feel defeated? Confused? Frustrated? Yeah, a little of all those things. But we also feel pretty certain that we’re right where God wants us, and it’s not a bad place to wait, especially with the new carpet.
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